Yesterday's Strategies May Fail You Today

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Hi, this is Dr. Daniels, and welcome to Healing with Dr. Daniels. This is the Sunday, December 13th, 2020 edition, and today's title is Yesterday's Strategies May Fail You Today and Why Seemingly Smart People Get It Wrong So Often. And as always, think happens.

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So today's topic, of course, has been inspired by the present situation that I am going through with my mother. Just to give you a quick update on Mom: last time we spoke, she had lapsed into a state of unresponsiveness, opening her eyes occasionally. We finally mobilized enough administrative levers to agree that we would take her home with hospice. Then suddenly, the decision was made to transfer her to the hospital for intravenous antibiotics because she was flailing her arms around. Of course, her medical power of attorney, held by someone in the States, said, "Oh, sounds good to me." So, the situation is basically unimproved, I guess we could say stable, and everyone's agreed that Mom will come home. However, the mechanism appears to be up in the air, and my daughter, who lives within five hours, is taking off the next month to go there and spend time 24-7 with Grandma. So that is the update on Mom. We'll get back to that.

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As you know, at the end of every episode, I answer questions. I don't always get to all the questions, so people who have questions that don't get answered can either review old archived radio shows or make an appointment at vitalitycapsules.com. Also, the Vitality Capsules we do have in stock can be ordered at vitalitycapsules.com. Vitality Capsules are the internal cleanser, gentle enough for everyday use. Yes, so you can get those three bowel movements a day so you too can use Turpentine if you choose to. Or you can just have the benefits of three bowel movements a day. You can also get your free report, the Candida Cleaner, which tells you all about Turpentine, at vitalitycapsules.com. People who want to send in questions to the show can email them to jdaaniels@gmail.com. And that brings us to today's show.

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So, a glass of water on that one. Oh wait, I have to take my Turpentine. I have my whole setup here. We're constantly improving our technology. I have a floating keyboard and trackpad here so that I can lay out my Shilajit, Turpentine, sugar, and water without reaching over anything. And as you can see, we no longer need the microphone—yay! Which means I don't have to reach around it. All right, so let us do the Turpentine first. We have Turpentine. Yes, the "N" and the "E" are missing, but I ran out of tape, and it serves the purpose of people knowing what's in the jar and not to drink it.

This is the pipette I use to squeeze up the Turpentine. You can see the level of Turpentine. The level is right there at the neck where the neck starts getting wide—that's the amount I take, which is two and a half cc's, the same as a half teaspoon. Yay! Then we have a spoon. I've upgraded to a regular United States teaspoon instead of a dessert spoon. The dessert spoon used to fill the spoon with sugar, and I would always get Turpentine on my lips, which tastes bad. This regular teaspoon—oh, here's the sugar. I even have my sugar labeled. Why do I have sugar labeled? A lot of things are white powders, right? It could be ascorbic acid, vitamin C powder, it could be anything. So label it sugar.

Now, this is too much sugar. That's too much sugar. So for the amount of Turpentine I'm taking, I want to knock half of that off. There we go. That's pretty good. We have our sugar, we have our Turpentine, and bam! There we go. Okay, yay! Now that was easy. So I put my sugar only halfway down the spoon, using a larger spoon so I can do that. I can get my lips all the way over the amount of sugar and back here, scooping the whole thing off with no Turpentine on my outer lips. And even better, the sugar and Turpentine lift right off the spoon, go right down my throat, and don't hit any taste buds, causing an unpleasant experience. This makes it super, super simple for me to take my Turpentine. Yay! Can I tell you how happy I am to have discovered that? So I'm sharing that with you, hoping it makes your experience easier as well.

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All right, that brings us to Shilajit. So keeping it real here, I hate Shilajit. It just tastes weird. But this is Shilajit. It's gooey, goo, just to let you know how gooey that is. This is the tropics where it's nice and warm, so it's, yeah, it's gooey. So how much Turpentine? I mean, how much Shilajit? About 200 milligrams. That is way too much. So I'm just going to scrape that off until I get what looks like 200 milligrams. Dr. Daniels, what is 200 milligrams? It's about a quarter of a quarter teaspoon. I'm going to take a look at that. That looks pretty good to me. There you go. A quarter of a quarter teaspoon on my chopstick. I'm going to take my water. Yay! Put it in there. And as you can see, even in the tropics, it does not really dissolve. Yeah, the chopstick is still dirty, so we do not have it dissolved. So we're going to leave it there for a while, and I'm going to try and remember to take it before the end of the show. Usually, I take it after, but I'll take it before the end of the show, and you'll see the funny face I make, and you'll know just how icky it really is.

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Okay, so that brings us to today's topic, which is Yesterday's Strategies May Fail You Today. It was my presumption, erroneous of course, that Mom was not doing well, but all of her kids were doing fine because we're all in our 60s. Well, there's one young one who's only 53. I figured everyone's just moseying along, you know. And then I expressed this opinion to my youngest brother, who's only 53. He says, "Oh no, no, no. Your brother, 11 months older than you, is not far behind. In fact, he may reach the grave before Mom does." I said, "Oh my God, really?" "Oh yes. He sits in his basement and just sits there. Doesn't really stare at the wall because he can't really see anymore." I said, "Oh my God." "Yes, and you know that half a foot they cut off? Well, that wound never has healed." I said, "Oh my goodness."

So you have to ask how that happened. Of course, he is a diabetic, smokes cigarettes, and drinks some alcohol. Then we have my sister. I said, "Well, surely she's doing well." He says, "No, not really. She stopped walking, and all she does is sit in front of the TV 24 hours a day." I said, "Oh my goodness, that's not a good idea." He says, "Well, shoulder shrug." I said, "Well, surely my younger brother, who's two years younger than me, must be doing fine." And he said, "Well, don't really know. Probably not, to tell you the truth." And so I said to myself, something's wrong here. I mean, surely.

So of course, the brother I was talking to, who's 53, says, "But I tell you," he gave me a picture of everything he was doing. He adjusted his diet, he was walking every day, he was working, and things were going well. And so I said to myself, hmm, what is going on? How could all these people have got all of this stuff so far wrong? And then, of course, there's Mom, who wants to die at home but is somehow trapped in a nursing home. So what happened here?

Then I was listening to all these CDs—that's old, what do they call those things? Audios online, yeah. And they're talking about people with strategies and that your strategy in life is really what determines your success, your strategy. And I thought about that, and it's not just strategy, it is strategy and timing. And what has really gotten all these people into the situation that they are in is that there was a strategy at one point in their life that worked pretty well. And they continued that strategy throughout the rest of their life, even though it stopped working. It was no longer appropriate for that stage in their life.

So what I want to do then is talk to you about the different stages of life, the different health strategies that we as humans are naturally motivated to employ, and what strategies are most likely to give pretty good results. Then we can backtrack to the strategy situation of maybe my mother and my siblings and see kind of where things go wrong. All right.

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So really, as a human being, there are really only two needs. It's just two. And people's lives are totally devoted to satisfying just those two needs. If they get distracted and neglect either one of those, then generally their life is certainly shortened or it's made extremely miserable. These two needs, I mean, Maslow's got this hierarchy—forget it. In my opinion, it's really simple. It's just two needs: health and happiness. That's it. Some people will say wealth, but quite frankly, all wealth does is it's a means to achieve health, which is a means to achieve happiness. And that's really it. If you can keep it that simple, then you can maintain your focus.

So then what you can do is start with number one, your happiness—define that. Once you define your happiness, then you can define the amount of health needed to sustain that happiness. Once you've got that, you can then go down to figuring out, okay, what is it going to take to sustain this health in terms of economics? And you can flesh that out. Since happiness for each person is very different—for some people, it's painting masterpieces; other people prefer to build skyscrapers; and still, others prefer time with the family—everyone's definition of happiness is different. This is why it's really super important for you to get in touch with your happiness.

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Now, our society is so mechanized that people actually have difficulty getting in touch with their happiness. What I tell people to do is go through your day, and you're going to notice during your day, some things you're pretty happy with—make a note of it. Then ask yourself, okay, how can I have more of this? Then you're going to notice some things that are kind of whatever, and then you ask yourself, how can that experience be increased, enhanced, or made more pleasant? If you keep going through this process of observation and interrogation, you're going to put together for yourself exactly what it is that makes you happy. Then from that, you say, okay, fine, what do I need to be able to do on a daily basis to experience this happiness? That will fill out for you what health is. Once you have that completed, you can step back and say, okay, what is the economic structure necessary to maintain this?

Now, in order to maintain your happiness, it takes resources, but there are lots of different kinds of resources. Sometimes resources can be relationships—maybe it's a spouse, maybe it's a certain number of children, maybe it's a location on the globe. Once you identify your happiness and the amount of health needed to achieve it, you can really answer the resource question very simply. It's a common habit to reduce resources to money only, but that is a mistake. There are many forms resources can take, and for your health, the best resource, of course, is your own personal habits.

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Today, I'm going to focus on health and the strategies and resources needed at each age/stage of life. These are only my observations and thoughts. My goal is not to tell you what you should do but to get you to examine your situation and adjust your strategies to maintain your happiness and health in the best way for you. So you can take my suggestions or today's show as inspiration or a jumping-off point and say, "Hey, you know, that's one thing, that's one perspective, but what are some other ways that might work for me?" Great.

So, everyone gets born, and from zero to six months, the strategy is simple: find a tit and hang on. That's a very good strategy for happiness and health from zero to six months. Now, at six months, things start getting a little different. Instead of finding a tit and hanging on with their mouth, now the kids start using their hands to grab on and bring the food source closer. By one year, it's like, wait a minute, there's more to life than this. Kids get interested in solid food. They start walking, going to get the stuff they like, and putting it in their mouths. This strategy works well up to about five years.

From five to 13 years, the kids notice, wait a minute, I've got a better strategy. The next strategy for happiness and health is obedience—pleasing your parents or whoever's feeding you. But once you hit around 13, maybe around 11, people start actually deciding what makes them happy. From 15 to 25, this concept of earning your own resources or going out into the environment and interacting to create the happiness and health that you want takes hold. In terms of happiness, from 15 to 25, people try all kinds of things—maybe it's sports, spices, food, cigarettes, alcohol, whatever—to enhance or experience happiness.

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From 25 to 40, there comes that awareness, wait a minute, some of these things that I thought were contributing to my happiness might not be contributing to my health. If it destroys my health, then my happiness goes away as well. So from 25 to 40, what's really needed and necessary is knowledge of what to avoid and what to do—habits to form that generate health and happiness. These are simple habits, like going to bed before 10 o'clock. I personally like 8 o'clock, my favorite. Another habit is drinking water every day. You can figure out how much water you want to drink—up to you. I personally lean towards three quarts a day for me, as it fits my body weight.

At 25 to 40, you should start planting seeds, looking to the future, which is called the winter of your life. This is the part of your life towards the end when you may need a little bit of help. Actually, most people need a little help or cooperation from others somewhere along the way. So you want to plant seeds—develop friendships, maybe have children or become part of a community that you contribute to, and that community or those children will take care of you as you get older. This has been the plan that my mother used, and it worked pretty well. She had six kids, and those kids had kids. From the collection of about 30 people, if you add up all of her kids and grandkids, she was fortunate enough to have four or five step forward and make a really meaningful difference in her existence.

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The other thing, of course, during this period from 40-ish to 70, is also where maybe part of the strategy for maintaining your happiness and health is the accumulation phase—saving things. It might be money, Bitcoin, gold, real estate, or your relationships that you can call upon from age 70 onward to maintain your health and your happiness. Now, I want to say that happiness at age 5 to 13 years might be riding your bicycle. At age 25 to 40, it might be watching your children grow up. At each point in your life, happiness is actually going to be something different. So it's super important to check in with yourself at least every five years and say, "Hey, what's making me happy today? Is it the same as it was five years ago? If not, let me adjust my daily activity plan, my habit plan, my resource plan to fit my new happiness."

I think this is the problem—that people don't adjust their happiness strategy, their happiness goals, or their health strategies. From 40 onward, this is an excellent time to take a look at your alcohol consumption, cigarette consumption, and all of those drugs or even other activities that might have been very pleasurable from 15 to 40 but going forward might not be a good idea because they diminish your health so much that it could snuff out your happiness. From 40 to 70 is a consolidation period where you need to pick up new habits, evaluate the habits you have, and maximize the generation of health and happiness.

Again, as I said, you've got to plant those seeds—the relationships, whether it's children, grandchildren, spouses, a community you're a member of, a church, whatever. But that has got to happen, or you're going to come up short. The problem happens, of course, when a person does not graduate from one stage to another. The "find a tit and hang on" strategy does not work well for happiness when you're 30, 40, or 50 years old. You need a plan that's a little more elaborate than that.

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My one brother, I was told, has been borrowing money steadily from my mother year after year after year and not paying it back. The "find a tit and hang on" strategy was what he was using, and things are not going well right now for him at the age of 61. Now, you have to realize that what makes you happy may not be the same as what makes the next person happy. This is why it's so important to really take a look at your habits. Not everyone is going to be happy with the same habits, and not everyone's going to be happy with the same means of getting to those habits. So it's really important to understand and accept that what makes you happy is not going to be the same thing that makes someone else happy. Because someone else's happiness is different from yours, that doesn't mean you should belittle them or think less of them. Rather, realize, "Oh, that's their happiness, and that's okay. But this is my happiness." So for my happiness, these are the habits I need.

The other thing is you need the flexibility to exercise judgment and change that judgment when it's shown to be ineffective or in error. For example, my one brother, who as a young person smoked cigarettes, drank alcohol, and we have a long list of things, but at the age of 64, he didn't revisit those things and say, "Wait a minute, I guess it's time for me to let go of this habit and pick up another habit." These things have got to be done.

Now, another thing that happens is we have to talk about the economics of things as well, because it's a cycle there too. As a kid, maybe you get an allowance, and then maybe you'll go to college and borrow money—maybe, cross our fingers, you'll get a job and pay it back. But getting a job to earn more money doesn't—it's not a lifetime strategy, right? Because at some point, you're not going to be able to work the way you did when you were 25. So there needs to be some type of saving strategy, some type of creation of ongoing income stream or whatever. The same with health. Even as a 25-year-old woman, for example, you're going to have periods every month, and you're going to have this amazing cleansing to dump all kinds of toxins and everything. Once you get, say, over 50 or something by 60, you're not going to have that option open. You're going to have to get a different strategy for something even as simple as cleansing. It might be enemas, it might be saunas, it might be increasing your bowel movements, but you're going to have to get a different strategy.

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This is a paradox. A strategy that works for health when you're younger may not work as the years pass by. There's another strategy in here that kicks in. It used to kick in around age 20, but now it's kicked in earlier, like at birth. That strategy is to find a certified government expert and just delegate your health to that expert. That does not work for health. Why? Because certified experts have to function in compliance with their certification, and that compliance with their certification may not be optimal for your happiness. This becomes a hands-on job where you actually have to find what works for you and have the courage to say no to the stuff that doesn't work for you.

For me, this has involved exploring, investigating, in one case, discovering turpentine and using it, even though you can imagine people said, "Oh my God, can you believe she said that?" Even my own mother, whose health was so dramatically improved by turpentine and Vitality Capsules, said to me, "Jennifer, you got to be careful. You can't—these things are dangerous. This is turpentine. I hope you're not doing anything unsafe." Even people who benefit from doing things that work really well for them often have difficulty accepting those things, even though they may be helpful, harmless, inexpensive, and beneficial.

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Happiness is different for different people, and your health is determined by what you do. It is not something someone can do for you. This is critical. This is huge. This is why my siblings and I all have such different levels of health because nobody can do it for you. This is also why wealth does not guarantee health. The selection of habits to create health is essential because it's what you do that makes the difference. For example, I take turpentine. It greatly improves my health—I feel great. But nobody else can take turpentine in order to make me healthy. So the person sitting next to me taking turpentine—it's not going to make me healthy. I have to do it. No one else can do my stretches and splits for me to increase my hip mobility and allow me to avoid falls. Only I can do that. The person sitting next to me doing stretches and splits and has flexible joints—that's not going to keep me from having a fall or breaking a bone. Only I can do that. No one else can take Shilajit for me. No one else can take Vitality Capsules for me. I have to take them in order to benefit from them.

Even more important, nobody should decide for me what habits I need to adopt to support my happiness. The same goes for you. Nobody else should decide for you what habits you need to adopt to support your health and your happiness. You have to decide. And even deciding is only half of it, right? The other half is you've got to do something about it. So you have to decide and you have to adopt the habits, implement the habits that will create the health to support the happiness that you're after.

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That brings us to questions, but we don't have a lot of time. Okay, so this person wrote 10 paragraphs. I will summarize it for you. This person has a daughter who's 18 months old. Her daughter is in excellent health. Her daughter is eating all the right stuff, pooping three times a day, and has a skin rash. Newsflash: if she's perfectly healthy, then the rash is healthy. There's nothing wrong with it. Don't worry about it. But if you're trying to fix the rash, what you're saying is she's not healthy—she's got the rash. So you've got to clear up your thinking on this, okay? Straighten your brain out.

Let's just say she's unhealthy because she has the rash. But the rash is the only thing that's not healthy, all right? I get that. Now, to say everything you're putting into her body is correct—her diet, everything you're taking out is correct—her poop, again, wrong. If she's got a rash, that means you're putting in something that's not going out. So you've got to alter what you're putting in in order to fix this problem. Usually, it's dairy or sugar—those are the two big culprits for skin rashes. And then with the output, there is an output problem. The problem is you're feeding her something that her liver is not handling or fixing. So that's about all I can tell you. What you put on her skin is actually a very small piece of any solution. So what I would say—oh, she poops two to three times a day, right? So the day she poops twice a day—that's not good enough. So you want to go three to four—just inch that up a bit. She regularly drinks water. Again, it might not be enough water, and it might be the wrong kind of water. Water should be distilled. You should take her weight, divide it by 50 pounds, and well, at 18 pounds, she should be drinking at least a pint of water a day. Then she goes through a long list of drugs the doctor has offered—don't worry about it. It's irrelevant.

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All right, that is it for questions today. Hopefully, we'll have more time for questions next week. We'll see you then, and as always, think happens.