How Self Forgiveness Can Upgrade Your Life

(0:00) Hi, this is Dr. Daniels, and you're listening to Healing with Dr. Daniels. This is the Sunday, September 3rd, 2021 edition. And today's topic is why you need to forgive yourself. (0:18) So today, I'm going to reveal how self-forgiveness is the foundation of self-improvement, better health, and happiness. As always, think happens.

(0:27) But first, we need an update on mom. We are so proud of mom. (0:41) She has gone from semi-comatose to managing her walker, tooling around the room, independent toileting, and now she's taking a grip of her finances. Yes! (0:56) She has aggressively figured out how to pay her bills offline. Mom's 89. (1:02) And she has got those people agreeing to let her pay by telephone, by golly. And she's explained to me that she has got this under control. And they're trying to get her to pay her bills partially so they can get her finance charges. She says, "Oh no, no, no, no. I'm paying in full." (1:19) I said, "Yeah, mom, you go get them." And so she is having a ball. And she's still doing her bed exercises. And the leg the doctors wanted to amputate, of course, is getting stronger and stronger. (1:29) And as I said, she's able to get from her bed to the bedside potty, do all of her business, clean up whatever might happen, and even take a little passio, a little tour over to the door. (1:42) So yeah, go mom.

(1:42) Next, Vitality Capsules. We have the new bottle. Yay! (1:57) This is what you're going to see on the Vitality Cycles website. (2:06) And this is the new bottle. It's awesome. I'm so happy. Of course, you have your security seal and your cotton little thing there, and you unscrew it, and you have your Vitality Capsules. (2:17) Yes. And as you know, Vitality Capsules is our sponsor. Yay! And it is the internal cleanser that is comfortable enough for everyday use. It helps you get your three, count them, three poops a day. Yes. (2:33) So visit VitalityCycles.com. Now also on VitalityCycles.com, you will find replays. Yay! Replays of these shows.

(2:41) Okie doke. Next. Oh, my progress. So as many watchers know, I am, yay, 64 years old. (2:54) Well, my assisted handstands have progressed to almost no assistance, and I'm now ready for a bigger gym, I'm told, with more safeguards so I can do unassisted handstands and cartwheels. Yay. Applause, please. (3:13) So those of you who are 64 years old, like me, be inspired. I want you to know that four years ago, I was stiff, weak, and contemplating a cane. Yes, that's true. I tried to go hiking with a local group, and they ridiculed me and told me I had no business hiking. Yes, they did. (3:30) So just saying, don't be discouraged. You can do it. You can do it. Yes. Go for it.

(3:37) All right. So next, turpentine. Let's do it. And for turpentine, what do we need? (3:47) Sugar. Yay. White sugar. And whenever you do stuff at home, you've got to hold yourself to a high standard. Label your stuff. This could be sugar, could be vitamin C, ascorbic acid, could be salt. So label your stuff. (4:01) And this is a teaspoon. Those of you who are not in the United States, this is a five-gram teaspoon. And we just want to get a heaping teaspoon of sugar. (4:16) About like that. A little less. There we go. Sugar. Then we want to get our little pipette. It's a little plastic disposable pipette, but I reuse it. And my dose is half a teaspoon, which is right up to the neck. Right there. (4:39) All right. So we've got a turpentine bottle, also labeled turpentine. Now notice, you don't have to be perfect, right? Just get enough of a label on there that you know and other people know this is not a recreational beverage. And we put a little dropper in there, and we suck up some turpentine. So I just want to show you how you figure this out. So my dose is right at the neck. As you can see, it's a little more than that, so I'm going to squeeze this out, get it right accurate. This is natural healing. It is not medicine. We don't go on a more-the-better model. We just realize that we need the right dose. (5:22) Okay. So we're going to put this on here. Squirt, squirt, squirt, squirt some more. Empty that dropper. Yay! Done. (5:30) Okay. As you might be able to see, some of the sugar granules have turned grayish. That's normal. And some have not. That's normal, too. That's the way you want it. If every last granule turns gray, then you have too much turpentine and too little sugar. Not good. (5:41) All right. Let me get our water. Yay! (6:00) Oh! All right. Got that down. Dr. Daniels, why do you take turpentine every day? I take it every day because it makes my joints very lubricated and flexible and pain-free. And I can do all these amazing things. It also makes my everyday life just so much more comfortable and easy. (6:14) And I feel so much better when I take it. So that's why I take it every day.

(6:18) Vitality Capsules, I also take every day, but I just put them in with my regular supplements and just take it all at once. All right. That brings us to Shilajit. Shilajit! As you can see, the label is wearing off. Why is it wearing off? It's wearing off because this is a one-and-a-half-year supply. As you can see, I've been using it easily for about six months, maybe eight months here. This is Shilajit. It is black tar. Now, this is a lot. You only need 200 milligrams, which is a quarter of a quarter teaspoon. This is clearly an excessive dose, so we're going to just scrape that right off. And you can eyeball it. (7:17) And some days, you'll take a little bit more. Other days, you'll take a little bit less. And some days, of course, being human, you'll forget it. But that's fine. It works just fine. There you go. (7:26) So if you can take this like five days out of seven, then you'll get all the trace minerals you need. I can put a top on that so I don't make too big a mess. This is our water. Yay! (7:40) And we're going to put that right in there. Stir that up, and you'll see it does not readily dissolve. So we're going to let that give that some time. Now, you notice how gooey it is? That's because I'm in a warm climate. Those of you who might be in a cooler climate, maybe you get snow at some point during the year, it's going to be like a hard, stiffer material. But don't despair. Usually, a chopstick does very nicely. (8:07) Why do I take this? I take this because the mineral nutritional chain in our food supply is broken. Why is that? That's because when you poop, same when I poop, I use a toilet, and my poop goes down the toilet out to the seas or oceans. It does not go on crops to fertilize the food that I eat, which means my minerals are lost and not recycled back to my body when I eat food. And food now is being fertilized with NPK, that would be nitrogen, phosphorus, and potassium, which is only three minerals and zero trace minerals. Even worse, even if you're eating organic, most organic crops are fertilized with other composted vegetables. So you're still not completing that chain. Or it's fertilized maybe with feces from an animal, not a human. So this chain of people eat fertilizer food, food grows, give nutrients back to people, that chain is broken. And it's broken because of a lifestyle decision of indoor plumbing and flushing toilets. (9:01) And so one way to fix that is to take Shilajit, which is a trace mineral material scooped out from the earth. It has over 80 trace minerals. Very, very good.

(9:01) Okay, which brings us to today's topic. Why you need to forgive yourself. This is so, so, so important. Now, to forgive yourself does not mean to let yourself off the hook. It's the only way you can put yourself on the hook. So here's how it goes. (9:52) Only with self-forgiveness can you have the courage to own up to your personal flaws, to your own personal responsibility in maybe what's bad in your life, or even worse, what's bad in the world. Then, only then are you empowered to take the next step, which is self-correction or improvement. (10:16) So you need to judge yourself as harshly and with the same lens as you judge others. The mistake people make when they judge themselves as harshly as others is they feel that they should be punished. No, no, no, no. You need to forgive yourself. (10:34) Then you need to correct. Examine your action and correct whatever the action is you're engaged in that might be harmful. So first, you judge yourself pretty harshly. You know what? You have messed up, and it is totally on you. You're like, "Oh, oh." But then you say, "You know what? We're going to forgive you. We're going to forgive you, but you got to improve. And here's the improvement plan." Now you get to be as stern or lenient as you want to be with yourself with the improvement plan. (11:07) But it's only by judging yourself as harshly as you judge others that you can get to the part of self-improvement. And so again, when people mess up with this is they judge themselves as harshly as they judge others, but then they decide to punish themselves. No. (11:26) You don't understand that the fact you did wrong really is its own punishment. It's punishment enough. So acknowledge that you're not perfect. Acknowledge that you've messed up and then examine carefully what you've done and what you can improve. And you can even make a small incremental improvement. Doesn't need to be overnight big deal.

(11:59) So let's take a look at this. I'll give you an example. As a type 2 diabetic, you cannot, most type 2 diabetics might judge their doctor harshly. "Doctor didn't cure me. That pill didn't work. This insulin is just making me fat." And so that person is judging their doctor, judging the therapeutics pretty harshly. (12:26) Now the next step, of course, is this person maybe could judge themselves pretty harshly like, "I'm the reason I have type 2 diabetes. What am I doing to create the type 2 diabetes?" So once you decide that you're creating the disease, the next step though is not to say, "I deserve to suffer. I deserve to be punished. Yes. Give me the amputation. Cut out my eyeballs. Take my kidney." No, no, no. Wrong. Wrong way. Go back. Don't do that. (13:07) Instead, what you want to do is you want to say, "Wait, I have brought this curse upon myself. I have created this terrible thing in my life. How can I change? What can I change to fix this?" But first you have to say, "I now forgive myself. I have, I've suffered enough. I'm going to take corrective action." But again, you have to do the forgiveness step because if you don't do the forgiveness step, then everyone's mind will jump to the punishment step. No. (13:43) So a lot of people refuse to take responsibility because they feel if they take responsibility, they have to punish themselves. No, you don't. Don't do that. Believe me, life is tough enough.

(13:58) Here's another example. As a doctor, I came to realize the drugs I had prescribed for years were at best useless. That would be fraud. And at worst, harmful. That would be criminal assault. (14:12) And I realized another person doing the same type of activity would be subject to serious criminal charges, even imprisonment. Now, for doctors to judge themselves as they judge others would lead them to believe they should be punished severely. And this in part, I believe, is the reason for the high suicide rate among doctors. Because once they see what they're doing, and the next step, of course, is the punishment step. Crime punishment. Yeah, crime and punishment. (14:42) On the other hand, if they had a healthy forgiveness practice in place, they could go through the steps of forgiving themselves and then figuring what action might be reasonable. So when I was practicing medicine, I had this epiphany. And I said, okay, fine, I'm going to offer people the choice of not following the standard of care. Offering people the choice of changing their lifestyle. (15:17) And what happened was the death rate in my practice went to zero. Nobody died. In fact, the hospitalization rate went down from five a month to one every three months. Now you say, oh, Dr. Daniels, that's so wonderful. Well, then there was the stress of, well, I'm not doing what I was trained to do in medical school. I wonder if there is a problem with this. And so then there were other repercussions, which led me to the final solution, which of course was to stop practicing medicine totally.

(15:57) Let's take another example. For example, a person pays into a retirement fund because they feel that government will have the money for them when they need it and when they retire. But they also feel that they cannot trust themselves to save that money. They do not trust themselves to save the money, yet they are upset to find that the government has spent the money and not saved it. (16:21) So if the person had judged themselves as harshly as they judge the government, they might find the real problem is that the government is composed of people just like themselves. How about that? How amazing is that? (16:42) And again, only once you commit yourself to judging yourself as harshly as you judge others can you even arrive or begin to arrive at this little piece of truth. And so what's a person to do? So you know the government is every bit as responsible or irresponsible as you are. Well, clearly the answer would be to provide for your own retirement the best you can and maybe you'll save enough and maybe you won't.

(17:11) So the latest report is that the government will run out of money in 2026 and have difficulty paying the Social Security that it promised. How that's going to be handled, I don't know. But if people understood that that was the situation, they might get a different retirement plan in place. (17:33) They might decide, you know what, I better have six kids and hope one of them will let me move in when I need help. Maybe I'll build a house or a shack or whatever for one of my kids to move into or I'll build a house while I raise my kids and I'll build a little house at the edge of the yard and then when I get old I can move into the little house at the edge of the yard. Might be a one room, one bedroom, whatever, grandmother cottage and the kids can raise their family in the big house. (18:04) Maybe that would be a better retirement plan. So once you acknowledge that maybe you have a flaw or maybe you're judging yourself as harshly as you judge others, you can realize, hey, I have a shortcoming here and find a way to work around your shortcoming rather than ignore your shortcoming, criticize the same shortcoming in others, and allow it to prevent you from actually addressing the real issue in a positive way.

(18:44) Here's another one. Alcohol. Making alcohol illegal or just controlling it how you use it in your life. For example, in my life, I use whiskey, I use vodka to make tinctures. Do I drink whiskey? No. I might gargle it once or twice a year if I have a bad cough, but that's it. And vodka, again, some tincture recipes call for vodka, and so I'll soak the herbs in vodka. (19:22) So you actually can control that. And so once you realize that the problem is not the alcohol, but the problem is your choice of how you use alcohol, then you can say, ah, how do I go about it? Then you can then take a look at, okay, what's my level of self-discipline on this matter? (19:34) It might be that you're pretty weak. Maybe you drink a lot or more than you think you should. In that case, well, what can you do? You can live in a place that's not near a liquor store. You can shop at grocery stores that don't sell alcohol. You cannot go to parties where alcohol is served. (19:57) I mean, again, if you know that you have this flaw, then what you need to do is judge yourself as harshly as you judge others. So it's not society's job to make alcohol illegal, but your responsibility to permit alcohol in your life in a positive way. And depending on your situation, a positive way might be not at all. A positive way might be making medicinal tinctures. (20:27) A positive way might be a relaxing drink once a month or six times a year. Whatever it is, it's up to you. But you need to realize, again, judge yourself as harshly as you judge others, then forgive yourself, then look for a solution that involves you taking responsibility.

(20:52) Now, a couple things happen here. Once you judge people as harshly as you judge yourself, you're going to find a few things. So first you judge people as harshly as you judge yourself. That's it. Be very harsh. Then you're going to find what you thought was a fault maybe was not a fault or something worth correcting. If that's the case, don't correct it in yourself and don't correct it in others. (21:12) Stop judging them negatively, which really helps conserve your positive energy for that trait or action. I'll give you an example. When I was younger, before I had children, my brother and his wife had at least three. They had three children, and those kids would run around and they had snot just dripping out of their noses. (21:41) I said, "Oh my god, how could a parent be so negligent as to allow slime to drip out of their child's nose? Those surely must not be good parents." Well, then I had my own kids. Guess what? When I had one kid, man, I caught that slime, man, kept that nose nice and clean. By the time I got to three kids, there seemed to be always one kid with snot dripping out of his nose. (22:24) I realized it was not the end of the world. It was not unhealthy for the kids. They were going to survive it. I was going to survive it. And it was not worth correcting. And I had been overly harsh in even thinking negatively about my brother, his wife, and their snotty-nosed kids.

(22:30) So you've got to judge yourself as harshly as you judge others. And the really cool thing about this is when you judge yourself as harshly and you examine your life and you look at what you would have to put in to fix this shortcoming, and when you decide for yourself that the effort you have to put in to fix the shortcoming is not worth the effort, then understand the other person has probably made the same assessment, and that's why the situation is the way it is, and just let it go. (23:07) So if you feel it's not worth the effort to correct, then don't correct it. And then you can stop judging other people as well. And so once you judge yourself as harshly as you judge others, it also allows you to identify areas where maybe you had misjudged. Maybe the thing you judged as negative was actually, well, quite trivial.

(23:43) So many people don't want to hold themselves to the same standard they hold others, and they expect more of others than they expect of themselves. And this is really unfortunate. And the reason this happens is because they cannot forgive themselves. You've got to forgive yourself. (24:01) Forgive yourself because this is your license to hold yourself to a higher standard, to the exact same standard that you hold other people. And you really owe it to yourself, especially in the area of health. You know, if you have arthritis, don't blame your doctor for not getting you well. Hold yourself to the same standard you hold the doctor. Blame yourself for getting yourself sick. (24:29) And then you can say, oh, wait a minute, what do I have to do to fix this? And you might, once you get a load of, you know, that you're going to have to drink water, poop more often, and change your diet. Like, that's not worth all that. Well, if it's not worth all that for you to prevent it, then, you know, let other folks off the hook for not cleaning up a mess that you made. (24:52) And acknowledge and be honest with yourself that you value your lifestyle, your eating habits, your drinking habits, your pooping habits, whatever they are, more than you value pain-free joints. And that's okay. Because why? You've forgiven yourself. So this is like really cool. It'll give you a lot more peace of mind, and it'll give you the greatest health that you're capable of having.

(25:12) And many people are very judgmental about this, but I think it's very important for each individual to say it's okay for them to decide what level of health they want to have, and what level of health they are willing to make an effort to maintain and sustain. For example, even though I'm 64 years old, you know, I have this wonderful skin, great energy, you know, doing splits and backbends, and now I'm almost doing my handstands. (25:55) But that comes with a price. And what's the price? The price is I have to spend time practicing. The price is I have to drink plenty of water. The price is I have to, you know, make sure I poop every day because I don't want that waste getting in my joints and making me stiff. I don't want that waste getting in my skin and giving me age spots and blemishes. (26:12) So again, it's you have to decide what effort you're comfortable making. And through forgiveness, you can say, you know what? This is the effort I'm comfortable making, and therefore, I'm okay with accepting this outcome. If I want that outcome, I'll change my effort. And it's okay to decide not to change your effort. That's the key, I think, people need to really understand, is you have to totally forgive yourself, which allows you to find the solution. (26:42) And again, forgive yourself again for whether or not you implement the solution. So you don't have to feel like you're, you know, have to, have to, have to. As I used to say, though, in the ghetto, "I ain't got to do nothing." So you ain't got to do nothing. Just judge yourself as harshly as you judge others, then forgive yourself, then look for the solution, then decide to implement it or not and be totally okay with your decision. (27:21) Again, just forgive yourself.

(27:21) All right, that brings us to questions. Oh, we have so many questions. So hard to check. Oh, so hard to pick. (27:36) Okay, so I'm going to do two questions, even though they're big ones. There's much discussion lately about vaccine shedding, transmission to the unvaccinated, and drinking, blah, blah, blah, as an antidote and preventative against the effects of transmission. And so the question is, does taking a different time do the same thing? (27:51) All right. So first of all, much discussion lately. That's the key. Vaccine shedding is something that's been going on for at least 50 years that I'm aware of. And so when children are vaccinated, the doctor will often tell the parents, now, don't have them visit grandma or anyone on chemotherapy for a week or two here because he's just been vaccinated. He's going to be shedding viruses. So we don't ostracize children who are vaccinated, and we don't take protective herbs against kids who are vaccinated. (28:26) And so there's no need to start doing that now with this present vaccine. It is basically behaving exactly like all the other vaccines.

(28:40) However, let's go to the next step. What is it that would need to be done to protect you? Increase your water. That dilutes the concentration of the shedded viruses in case any get into your system. So increase your water intake, stay hydrated, then increase your poops three times a day so that if the virus gets into your system, your immune system can just dump it out the bottom end. So what you're talking about here as taking herb, this herb, that herb, is totally irrelevant. And so really the key here is water and pooping.

(29:21) Okay. This person says, my husband uses turpentine externally and is amazed at the effects on his Dupuytren's contraction. Wonderful. We are so happy for that.

(29:32) And our next question, this one's a doozy. Buckle up your seat belts so you can understand this answer. I'm going to use a few numbers. Two weeks ago, my family all got the COVID-19 virus or whatever you want to call it. Bad flu. Stop right there. So let's just presume they got something that was spread person to person and it was a virus. Let's go with that.

(30:04) We have some facts here. Let's throw in a few facts. There's a lot of research done on COVID-19 transmissibility. You can Google COVID-19 transmissibility, a space, R factor, and look at whatever comes up under National Library of Medicine and CDC. What you will find is there've been a lot of studies on the transmissibility. So they took a positive person, had 400 contacts, and they followed those over a four day period of 400 contacts. (30:28) So obviously you immediately check the ones that are positive. They get eliminated because they were already positive before exposure. So they got a group of 400 contacts with this person who were COVID negative. Followed the contacts for a full month. Takes two weeks for them to turn positive based on exposure. Zero of the 400 became positive. (30:55) That was a study done in China. Study done in the United States did 200 contacts. Same experiment. Zero of the 200 became positive. Then they did a prevalence study. What they found is if you have one COVID positive person in a household, the prevalence of COVID in that population is 10%, which is pretty high, 10%. (31:32) Then they did the prevalence among healthcare workers. It got 4%. So we have this figure. So whatever you've got, if it managed to infect 100% of the people in your household, I can tell you it was not COVID. Why? The epidemiology of COVID is such that that's not the way it spreads. So COVID is not capable of infecting 100% of the people in the household. (31:50) And the 10% prevalence was among, they had narrowed down to the folks who slept together, husband and wife, husband and wife, doing whatever husbands and wives do. We can just, let's just guess they might sleep in the same bed overnight. Let's just give them that much. They can only transmit 10%. (32:07) So you don't have COVID-19. What happened? What do you have? Obviously you're sick. So anything that infects 100% of people who are exposed is called a common source outbreak. There is something all of you are exposed to that caused the illness. And this is well known. You can Google common source outbreak causes. It's there's something in the water that you and everyone drank. (32:42) There was something in the food that you and everyone ate. Someone used the toilet and deposited viruses on the toilet seat. Believe it or not. Yeah, it's real. There's no doorknobs. And all of you were contacted with that. So that's how you got what you got. What it is, we don't know. You weren't tested. But just the epidemiology of how it happened. It's a common source outbreak. Like you drop a grenade, a bunch of people get sick or injured all at once. (33:05) In a transmissibility situation, one person in your household would get sick. They would transmit it to someone else. They would have to wait two weeks before they were even contagious. Then the second person would get transmitted, right? The other three people in your house or four people wouldn't get it all at once. Why? Because a COVID person can only infect at best 10%. So that person would become positive two weeks later, the next person, two weeks later, the next person. That's as fast as COVID could spread through your family. So it would take at least eight weeks to get all four or five people in your household infected. And that's if one person was positive.

(33:38) Okay, so let's establish that you're sick. So you're sick, and we know how you got sick. Now what you're asking me is how I have scoliosis, I get an asthma, I occasionally get asthma when I smell smoke. Okay. Otherwise, I'm healthy. So the question is, I came very close to dying with a fever for so many days, I lost a lot of weight. What could I do to keep this from happening again? (34:12) So the answer is, we know it was your food, your water, or your bathroom. How do you handle this? Get your own private bathroom. Most American homes have two bathrooms. You need to stake out one bathroom that's yours and yours only, everyone else got to use the other bathroom. That's number one. Number two, water. Get a tabletop distiller, distill all of your water, drink only distilled water, cook with distilled water, and if you leave the house, carry your own purified water. (34:47) Number three, food. Eat cooked food, and make sure you bring it at least to 200 degrees at some point to kill the bacteria before you eat it, and eat it promptly. So you have to realize where this came from, and once you realize what you were exposed to, and where the epidemiology, where it came from, that's the prevention. So this is not a case for ivermectin, this is not a case for turpentine, blah, blah, blah, in terms of prevention. Your problem is you were exposed to a common source of disease, toxins, poisons, or infection, and that is the solution to it.

(35:36) Okay, there you go, and that brings us to the end of our show. Well, as always, think happens, and we will see you at the next broadcast.